Couple’s Therapy

Understand the patterns beneath the surface, and create deeper connection.

Most people arrive at couples therapy having already tried, longer conversations, more patience, time apart, time together. And still, something stays stuck.

Whether it's a specific rupture, a slow drift that's hard to name, or simply the sense that you're living alongside each other rather than truly together, coming here is a sign that this relationship still means something. That's the most important thing you can bring.

What brings couples here

There's no single reason people seek couples therapy. Sometimes it's a crisis, infidelity, a rupture that cracked something open, a moment where everything that had been quietly accumulating finally surfaced. Sometimes it's subtler: a slow drift, a growing distance, the same argument on a loop, the feeling of living alongside someone without really being met by them.

Sometimes couples come not because things are broken, but because they want to go deeper, to build something more honest, more alive, more intentional than what they have.

All of it is welcome here.

What's actually happening beneath the conflict

Most couples don't fight about what they think they're fighting about. Underneath the argument about dishes, schedules, money, or who said what, there are attachment needs going unmet, fears of abandonment or engulfment, old wounds being activated by new moments, and two people trying to feel safe with each other in the only ways they learned how.

Couples therapy at this depth isn't about communication techniques or conflict resolution scripts. It's about understanding the emotional cycles driving disconnection, and interrupting them at the root.

When each person understands what's actually happening inside themselves, and feels genuinely understood by the other, something shifts.

How I work with couples

My approach to couples therapy draws on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, attachment theory, and somatic and experiential approaches, integrated in service of what this particular relationship needs.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps couples identify and transform the negative cycles that have taken hold, the pursuer and the withdrawer, the escalation and the shutdown, and find their way back to secure, genuine connection.

The Gottman Method brings research-backed tools for building friendship, trust, and the capacity to repair, not just in crisis, but as a foundation for the relationship you want to have.

Somatic and experiential work means we don't only talk about what's happening, we work with it in real time, in the room, where the actual patterns are alive and can actually shift.

This is not a neutral, passive space. I'm present, engaged, and willing to name what I'm seeing, because real change in a relationship requires someone willing to be honest about what's happening between you.

What couples therapy can help with

Recurring conflict & communication breakdown: the same argument on a different day, the feeling of never being heard

Emotional distance & disconnection: living parallel lives, intimacy that has quietly faded

Infidelity & trust repair: rebuilding after betrayal, with honesty about what it takes

Major life transitions: parenthood, loss, career change, relocation, and what they ask of a relationship

Intimacy & desire: physical and emotional closeness that has stalled or shifted

Premarital & relationship deepening: building intentionally, before patterns calcify

Different attachment styles: understanding how each of you learned to love, and what that creates between you

Cross-cultural & interfaith relationships: navigating difference with curiosity rather than conflict

This work asks something of both of you

Couples therapy isn't a place to come and be validated while your partner is fixed. It asks something real of both people, a willingness to look at your own patterns, to stay present when it gets uncomfortable, to risk being known more fully.

What it offers in return is something most couples have never had, a space where both people are genuinely held, where the relationship itself is the patient, and where something different becomes possible.

A note on format

Couples therapy sessions are 60–90 minutes and offered online. I work with romantic partners at any stage, dating, cohabiting, engaged, married, or navigating separation with care. I am LGBTQ+ affirming and work with couples of all backgrounds, structures, and configurations.